By Margot | November 3, 2011
Sam and Joe
We had a good Halloween. The boys were very revved up and since the school carnival was on Friday and they went to a party on Saturday and then trick-or-treated on Monday, they had three full days of Halloween. I was in charge of the Pie Eating contest for the school carnival and afterwards ushered the boys around. Andy made it through the haunted house this year – big step for him . He was Lionel Messi the soccer player and Charlie was going to be a ninja but I ordered Andy’s costume from iOffer.com to save some money and then read all of these horrible reviews on Google by ticked off customers who never recieved what they ordered. I emailed someone in China and they said it might take up to 45 days. I figured I’d been had and ordered another one from Amazon and they both came on the same day. Charlie, noting that we had two Messi costumes, ditched his ninja costumes and became Messi jr. Andy protested loudly at first but then was all right with it. It made for a family themed costume as Neil wore his Beckham jersey and I was a goalie. We of course carved a pumpkin for Sam and I did his name as big as I could get it on the big pumpkin. Andy picked out the biggest for him. Andy and Charlie picked out very complicated stencils for their pumpkins and then lost interest after the tops were cut off and left good ol’ mom to struggle with the intricate carvings.
Andy’s political career has begun. He won safety officer at school and is so excited to be on student council. He worked really hard on his speech and we were very proud of him. I had to laugh at the Halloween party on Saturday he said to a 5th grade girl, “Aren’t you the new IB ambassador for student council?” When she replied yes, he said proudly, “I’m safety officer.” His speech is too big to paste on here but I’ll put a link to it at the end of this update. Andy’s doing really well at soccer, started flag football on Sundays which he loves (scary) and is starting basketball twice a week. Nothing like keeping busy.
Charlie is enjoying school and starting to make new friends. It’s been smooth sailing in his K-1 class for the past few weeks. I’m volunteering on library days. The library teacher was reading a story about Thanksgiving and asked the kids what they appreciate and are thankful for and Charlie raised his hand and said he’s thankful he has a Wii. One of those proud motherhood moments. He’s doing Mad science after school and is also having a great time on the soccer field scoring a lot and he actually passed last Saturday (a first .
We got through another Halloween without Sam and have officially kicked off the holiday season. Mainly we’ve kept our crazy schedule which keeps me sane and moving. I kept thinking of how much Sam loved Halloween and Christmas and how excited he got every year, but this year I had a thought that he would have been in middle school and almost too cool for it (not yet probably). Thank you to everyone for the kind comments on my last post reminding me that Sam will not be forgotten. I do panic sometimes. Can’t tell you how much those comments meant to me and Neil. I had a dream about Sam that he was out playing with the neighborhood kids and before that I was helping him with his homework. I was so happy and I asked him how he was getting home from school because I was only picking up Charlie and Andy and he said, “I’m in middle school now, Mom, I walk home.” In my dream I was talking to another mother while the kids all played in the neighborhood. She said she lost her daughter to neuroblastoma and I answered, “our oldest died as well” and then I thought, “but no he’s right here, I just talked to him” and then it dawned on me in my dream “but he is going to die.” and I started to cry. I woke up looking for him thinking he wasn’t gone yet. Ugh. Sorry-didn’t mean to make this update take a sad turn. We are really doing ok for the most part. There isn’t a better word to describe our life than bittersweet. The bitter and sweet can both come so quickly and close together.
I’m pasting a link to Andy’s speech on YouTube because I know it will make you smile: http://youtu.be/KuBT9af3P6A Couldn’t figure out how to get it on the TeamSam YouTube page but I’ll change it as soon as I figure it out.